… A woman who is gay or lesbian (or whatever “label” she chooses—or no label) engages in a primary relationship (or wishes to) with another woman. She can be truly herself in this relationship—emotionally, physically, sexually, spiritually. A second characteristic of a gay/lesbian woman is that she is likely to feel most comfortable when she connects with women friends, in women’s gatherings, at social events by and for women. We live in a world in which “compulsory heterosexuality” prevails, is r …